Posted by: Diane | January 6, 2014

Personal Convictions/Personal Boundaries

After two weeks of being sick over Christmas, both Chris and I were “ready to roll” last Saturday night. We desperately needed to get out of the house for a while so we decided to go see a movie. There were actually a few movies that we wanted to see but after quickly checking out different trailers and story lines, somehow we landed on The Wolf of Wall Street.

What a mistake.

Martin Scorsese’s THE WOLF OF WALL STREET is a three hour, shockingly obscene sex, drugs and bad behavior-fueled film, filled with raw content and a record-breaking number of swear words.

The story line follows a deceitful, hedonistic stockbroker as he quickly rises from being a young newlywed with ethics to becoming an utterly disgraced manipulator of both people and the law.  The movie is overstuffed and emotionally disturbing as it graphically and poignantly shows how low mankind can stoop and how horribly we can treat each other…

…and in Canada, this movie isn’t even restricted – it’s rated 18A, which simply means that people under 18 years of age must be accompanied by an adult.

Hindsight is always 20/20 and had I taken the time to responsibly look at some credible reviews, I would have read excerpts such as the following from Focus on the Family’s “Plugged In”

Jordan Belfort blows the lid off just about every jar of horribleness a scriptwriter could ever conceive of. He does it in such an outrageously obscene way that he makes infamous greedmeister Gordon Gekko (from the 1987 Oliver Stone filmWall Street) look merely like a giggling greenhorn in comparison.

There is—ostensibly, theoretically—a cautionary tale about the perils of lust and greed woven into Jordan Belfort’s story but the film concludes with him getting paid to give motivational speeches so this sort of soils that suggestion. That, and the fact that all along the way we’re invited to cheer for this ruthlessly greedy, sexually predatory, chemically dependent, foul-mouthed and narcissistic antihero.

What a lesson in revisiting my personal moral boundaries.

After watching the movie for fifty minutes, Chris and I walked out but not without looking around that packed movie theatre, filled with young people who were completely enraptured with the movie. The lady sitting beside me had brought her daughter to see the movie and she couldn’t have been any more than 16 years old.

When we asked to get our money refunded, the young clerk said to us, “I’m not sure we were be able to refund your money, since you watched the film for almost one hour.  Why did you stay so long?”  I told her that it was a mix of utter shock and hopeful anticipation that the movie was going to get better…but it didn’t. When the supervisor came out to assist the young clerk in serving us, he asked us what movie we had watched and when we told him, he just nodded his head, graciously gave us our money back and quietly said, “Yah, it’s a pretty raunchy movie. I understand.”

I left that movie theatre with such disturbing pictures running through my mind… and they’ve stayed with me for a couple of days.

Once the garbage is in your head, the damage is done but Chris and I made the right decision to leave the theatre, rather than sitting through another two hours of watching peoples’ dysfunctional behavior.

Gandhi once said, I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.”  We make hundreds of decisions every day in how we think, what we listen to and look at, how we feel and what we do – this is where personal convictions come in. It’s so important to know where our boundaries lie and be ever-vigilant in making sure we don’t cross the lines and head down what is always a slippery slope. 

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  1. I learned a little song as a child that really has stuck with me…. “Be careful little ears what you hear”, “Be careful little eyes what you see”. To the tune of ‘if you’re happy and you know it’

    Anyway, I recently saw ‘Saving Mr Banks’ a lovely story of how the movie Mary Poppins was made. Go see it, a treat for your heart!

    • Yes, that was one of the movies that I wanted to see on Saturday night but it was sold out! We’ll definitely go and see it – I’m heard great things about it!

  2. Thanks for your insights and convictions. I have walked out of movies before, and lamented for those still glued to the screen. Other times I have watched too long and regretted it. Philippians 4:8 is such a good plumbline. Linda

  3. I wholeheartedly agree with you. Your evaluation and opinion of that movie, our culture, choices and habits are illuminating. Amazing how much we just allow people to get away with and worse, accept!

    I was horrified when I read this open letter in LA Weekly, from the daughter of The Wolf:


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