Posted by: Diane | November 20, 2013

Cockamamy Communication 3

#3. When communicating with others, fools develop a big mouth.

babbling fool


When it comes to conversing, loud and much doesn’t help.

You want to create a relationship that is safe. L.R. Knost, author and child development researcher says this about communicating with children – “Yelling silences your message. Speak quietly so that others can hear your words, not your voice.”  I’d say ditto to communicating with people in general – not just with children.  Somewhere in my parenting years, someone told me, “Say what you mean, mean what you say.”  Ditto to that too. Fewer words are powerful. Without a doubt, loud and much doesn’t contribute to healthy, productive conversation.

The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools.                                                         Ecclesiastes 9. 17 NIV

When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. Proverbs 10.19 NIV

Scriptures says that “the fool gushes folly.” (Proverbs 15.2) When I was in elementary school, our class went on a field trip to the local fire station.  Most of that visit is a blur but I do vividly remember the moment when one of the firemen open fired on his colleague with a huge water hose.  The force of that gushing water threw the fireman about three feet back from where he was standing…and HE was prepared for it by deliberately maintaining a “feet-wide-apart,” secure stance. When I think about a visual of “gushing folly”, I think about that surge of water knocking the fireman right off his feet -that’s what the force and volume of words can do to another person and often, that person hasn’t taken precautions or prepared him/herself for such a verbal barrage.

A fool causes a lot of damage with his/her tongue.

A fool’s mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul.  Proverbs 18.7 NIV

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