Posted by: Diane | September 11, 2012

Marking The Calendar

It’s true – time does fly.

Summer is over and I can’t tell you how often I’ve heard people say, “oh, the summer just flew by! We wanted to see you guys but we ran out of time.” I have to watch my body language when I hear this because I’ve always believed that you make time for what is important…but you have to MAKE it – it doesn’t just fall in your lap.  Making time is very different than finding time.

God is the maker of time – He has gifted us with time and we are not at its mercy. Although we live in a world that moves quickly and in a culture that places unreasonable demands on our time, we are responsible and accountable for what and whom we invest in during our 1440 minutes every day.

Michael Altshuler put it so well.

The bad news is that time flies. The good news is that you’re the pilot. 

We are not victims of time.

Chris and I recently made the decision that we’ve commuted to church long enough. Since we moved north three years ago, it has taken us close an hour to get to church and when we tacked on arriving early for worship practice and meeting with people afterwards, it wasn’t uncommon to leave the house at 7:15 a.m. and arrive back home around 5:00 p.m. Weekends are precious to us because Chris travels so much during the week so we finally decided to begin looking for a more local church community.  However, we’re sad about our friends whom we won’t be seeing anymore on Sunday mornings.

It has taken effort and time to contact these relationships and communicate our intention to get together…but it takes more than that – it takes marking the calendar.  I have learned that if it’s not on the calendar, it just doesn’t happen…and if it doesn’t happen, it just wasn’t important enough.

People don’t verbalize this grim reality but it’s truth.

Prioritizing relationships means intentionally carving out time.. not hoping that someday, we might bump into each other. I suppose it’s a quirk of mine – when someone says, “we just have to get together”,  I wait to see if that person is willing to take the next step and commit to a time.

No one is too busy for relationships that are important.

Time does fly  – we need to prioritize relationships but if it’s not important enough to nail down a time, don’t pretend that it is.

We make time for what we truly value. We build habits and routines around the things that really matter to us. This is an important principle to understand as we seek to build our lives around the gospel. Do you want a cross centered life? A cross centered life is made up of cross centered days.      C. J. Mahaney


  1. Um, yeah … So about that getting together thing?!! Friday? xo

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  2. Yes, I’ve caught people out on that as well – “so, how’s next Thursday work for you” and then you get the flustered looks and realize, hmmm, it really was just a politeness and not a real invitation. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it!

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