Posted by: Diane | November 11, 2011

Quick To Judge, Quick To Label

During the last two weeks, I have had two conversations about homosexuality.  I don’t often talk about this topic but for some reason, it’s come up twice. The first conversation was very frustrating –  it went something like this:

N – Diane, what do you think about homosexuality?

D – Well, I look at the world from a biblical worldview and the bible says that homosexuality is wrong. 

N – Oh, so you’re homophobic. 

D – I am?  

N – Yes, you are. You said that homosexuality is wrong. 

D – You’re right – that’s what I said.  How does that make me homophobic? Did I say that I have an irrational fear and hatred against people who are homosexual?

N – No. But all Christians are homophobic.

D – well, in my opinion, you’ve come to a illogical conclusion. I believe that homosexuality is wrong but that doesn’t automatically make me homophobic.  You asked me what I thought – I told you. Disagreeing with homosexuality doesn’t make me homophobic. 

That was the end of that conversation. I would have continued talking with this person but he rolled his eyes and walked away.

It seems to me that in our culture, if you don’t accept homosexuality, you are homophobic. There is no in-between – you can’t politely agree to disagree: not about this topic. Do I hate homosexuals? No. Am I afraid of homosexuals? No. Can I love homosexual people but disagree with their  sexual orientation?  Yes, I can.

Lumping all Christians together and calling them homophobic is offensive and judgmental, yet flippantly and improperly labelling people as homophobic has become culturally acceptable.

I find that really disturbing.


  1. Hi Diane,
    A sensitive topic for sure so will jump in with my reflections – I am a firm believer in reading and interpreting scripture in context. When it comes to sexual orientation, I’m not very well versed on exactly where it says homosexuality is wrong. Have you ever looked in the eyes of a young man who is disclosing his homosexuality to you – as the first person outside his closed circle to open up to? Have you ever witnessed the fear and pain of alienation, and rejection because someone’s sexual orientation is other than what society deems ‘normal’. The first commandment is to love – this I’m sure we can all agree on. In the story of creation – we know that God saw all that he had created and said that it was very good. These are the priciples I try to live by and as for the rest of life – well I pray for direction, guidance and the capacity for wisdom, love and compassion. I don’t see life as black and white – all right or all wrong – context is so very important when we want to live in a merciful society. There are just so many true wrongs in the world – hatred, violence, rape, lying, cheating, stealing….I can’t say I see homosexuality as wrong – for I do believe God created us in His image – loving, compassionate people.
    Peace & Joy.

  2. Here are two verses in the bible that clearly state that homosexuality is a sin. Why is it that we neglect to see that this is sin? I don’t believe for one minute it is easy to “come out” as a homosexual, I think it would be extremely difficult to admit these feelings to family and friends. Does this make it any less of a sin because it is so difficult to admit? Why do we accept this lifestyle with open arms when God has said that it is not proper? I do not agree with someone who constantly shop lifts and I can openly say that with freedom within a normal conversation. No one would argue with that statement. I could also say that I do not agree with alcoholism and most people would agree with that as well. I would not be stepping on most people’s toes. If you look at 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 the list that Debbie sites as “true wrongs” in the world are included ALONG with homosexuals. Why has God included homosexuals in that list? THAT is something to consider and pray about. We cannot just ignore this because we don’t like it or because society says it’s okay. That’s not what God is saying here.
    1 Cor. 6:9-10, “Or do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals, 10nor thieves, nor the covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers, shall inherit the kingdom of God.”
    Rom. 1:26-28, “For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, 27and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. 28And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper.”

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